Tips For Successful Marriage Proposals: A Case Of Kisumu Man Who 'Saw Dust'

• Marriage proposals come with a host of emotions as things could either go right or wrong
• In one such instance, a Kisumu man named Fred Nyasoro left his lover's home disappointed after planning the event for a while
• It is against this backdrop that TUKO.co.ke shares some tips to ensure your proposal is successful

Marriage proposals are often nerve-wracking events, filled with anticipation and hope.

However, for one man in Kisumu, his meticulously planned proposal turned into an unforgettable experience for all the wrong reasons.

In an earlier story, Fred Nyasoro hilariously described the day he visited his lover's home, only to be disappointed.

Kisumu proposal that didn't go as planned

Nyasoro gathered two friends with whom they drove in a Toyota Vitz from Mombasa to Ahero.

Since introductions don't require many people, he had KSh 50,000: KSh 20,000 for each of the parents and KSh 10,000 for catering.

He intended to ask for the young woman's hand in marriage as he prepared for dowry.

To his surprise, the dad said the money was an insult because, for his daughter, the token for introductions should be at least KSh 100,000.

He tried convincing his girlfriend to explain to her dad that he would do better next time, but she insisted he honour the order.

Disappointed, he asked for a break only to take his boys to the nearest pub, where they spent the KSh 50,000 on partying.

Tips for successful marriage proposal

His story sparked conversations about what can go wrong during a marriage proposal and how to avoid such mishaps.

Drawing from the Kisumu man's experience, TUKO.co.ke shares some tips to ensure your proposal is successful.

1. Know your partner’s preferences

Understanding what your partner likes can make a huge difference, whether they prefer a private setting or a grand public gesture.

Doing so ensures that you tailor the proposal to their preferences while showing thoughtfulness and consideration.

In Nyasoro's case, he expected his lover to take his side, only for her to support her father's demands.

2. Plan for the unexpected

Always have a backup plan. Weather, unexpected interruptions, or other unforeseen events can disrupt your plans.

Apart from that, Marriage.com underpins that while one hopes for a positive response, there is always a chance that the partner may need time to think.

"Respect their feelings and decisions, and be open to discussing them openly and honestly," read part of the statement.

Preparing for these eventualities can help you stay calm and adapt.

Nyasoro had KSh 50,000 only and no other emergency cash, which made it impossible to argue his case.

3. Get the timing right

Timing is crucial. Ensure that you and your partner are in a good mood and that the moment feels right.

Avoid proposing during stressful times or when your partner is preoccupied.

That explains why several viral videos have shown partners rejecting proposals from people who thought they loved them.

4. Choose the right location

According to Vogue, the location sets the tone for the proposal.

Opt for a place with sentimental value or a beautiful backdrop to add ambience to the day.

Choosing the location also means knowing whether your partner is comfortable with a public proposal or prefers a simple thing.

With that sorted, opt for when the location is less likely to be crowded or affected by environmental factors like strong winds or harsh sunlight.

5. Practice your speech

While spontaneity can be charming, having a clear idea of what you want to say can help you express your feelings more effectively.

Often, a lack of preparation can cause one to stumble over their words, adding to the moment's awkwardness.

Brides.com proposes that one spends a little time jotting down what they plan to say to get some direction when it’s time to pop the question.

6. Stay calm under pressure

Unexpected challenges can arise, but staying calm and composed is critical.

Nyasoro revealed that when his lover's family turned down his token, he and his boys went to the nearest pub and spent the money.

His ability to laugh off the situation and create a new way to have fun despite the disappointment made things easier.

7. Focus on the moment

Ultimately, a marriage proposal is about two people committing to spend their lives together.

While external factors can play a role, what’s most important is the connection between you and your partner.

Fox News posits that there is no right or wrong way to propose. Therefore, the partners should focus on their relationship, and everything else will fall into place.

Following these tips can create a memorable and successful marriage proposal.

Remember, the thought and effort count the most, even if things don’t go as planned.

Father involves his 3 kids in epic marriage proposal

Meanwhile, one man orchestrated a heartwarming marriage proposal to his girlfriend with the help of his three kids.

They pulled off the epic surprise on the streets and stole the hearts of TikTok users across the globe.

The video sparked an outpouring of congratulations from viewers who flooded the comments section.

Proofreading by Asher Omondi, current affairs journalist and copy editor at TUKO.co.ke.