"I'm Jealous My Husband Treats Our Househelp And I Same, Should I Confront Them?": Expert Advises

A Kenyan woman is not happy with her husband's act of kindness towards their househelp
She lamented about him treating them the same and even buying her similar things as their help, whose child has since moved in with them
Relationship expert and marriage counsellor Jane Murimi advised the woman to confront her husband and their help to know if there is something between them

Anonymous wrote:

"My husband treats our househelp of nine years with so much love and care. Recently, he even asked her to bring her four-year-old child to stay with us. I love her, too, but I'm jealous of how my husband treats her. He books her tickets whenever we travel for holidays, buys her the same clothes and shoes as mine and gives her a bonus at the end of every year. Is there something that is happening or I am just overthinking? Should I approach her and ask her if she has a thing with my husband? Please help."

Jane Murimi Mugo is a relationship and marriage expert who started her counselling journey 12 years ago after realising that moulding children from a tender age is very important. She is currently working on a book on mental health, mainly targeting boys and men.

Should men be close to their househelp?

Murimi advised the woman to have a talk with her husband first and not confront her househelp.

"Approach your husband and get to understand what is happening. He could be innocent probably because of him being a good guy or he could be eyeing the girl. Asking the girl is stooping so low," she said.

Adding:

"Make your man understand that you are disturbed and you only need assurance. After all, all that he's doing is supposed to be done by the woman whether she's earning or not."

She opined that the man should leave the responsibilities to the wife.

"If he respects his wife and no strings attached with the househelp, let him leave those responsibilities to his wife. Buying matching lingerie is crazy! Isn't that the wife? Let her be bold enough and share with him why she feels uncomfortable. For how long will she keep it to herself hurting from inside?" she shared.

Disclaimer: Advice given in this article is general and is not intended to influence readers' decisions about solving marital problems. They should always seek professional advice that considers their circumstances before making a marriage decision.

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